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How to Keep Anxiety From Spiraling Out of Control
Jim is stuck in a cycle. He’s an athletic man in his 40s who works as an EMT, and he is prone to panic attacks. When panic strikes, Jim’s heart palpitates, his throat closes up, and he thinks, Oh no, I'm having a heart attack! or Oh no, I’m going to end up with super-high levels of anxiety and I’m not going to be able to tolerate it!
How to Make Happiness Last in a Relationship
You’ve likely heard the saying, “Happy wife, happy life” or “Happy spouse, happy house.” But are these popular sayings actually supported by research?
The short answer is likely yes, as several studies link the quality of a couple’s marriage to each partner’s individual happiness. In fact, psychologist Eli Finkel shared survey findings that show 57 percent of people who say they are “very happy” in their marriage also say they are very happy with their life overall—whereas only 10 percent of people who say they are just “pretty happy” in their marriage say they are very happy with their life overall.
Self-destructive behaviors are intentional actions likely to cause harm physically or emotionally. Examples include substance abuse, engaging in risky behavior, including sexual behavior, or general risk-taking, such as gambling, where there is little chance of controlling the outcome. In 25 years as a sex crimes prosecutor, I have repeatedly seen more severe forms of self-destructive behavior. They include cutting/self-mutilation and other types of physical self-harm to relieve the “pressure” of intrusive traumatic memories and thoughts.
Couples Who Don't TalkSome couples simply don’t talk. Well, they talk mostly about logistics—who’s picking up the kids, what time are you getting home—or superficial matters—the how-was-your-day? They don’t have serious conversations—intimate ones about how they really feel and what is going inside them and in their lives—or about problems in the relationship.
How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself at Work
You start the workweek ready to tackle your tasks, feeling confident, but then, it happens.
You don’t speak up during an important meeting, and the critical voice in your head starts.
“They’re going to think you’re not engaged. How could you let that opportunity go by?”
You try to brush it off. Then you catch a typo in a report you submitted. “Can’t I get anything right?”
When you seek information from your partner, chances are you assume that no matter how you ask the question, you’ll get the same answer. You and your partner may even pride yourselves on your ability to read each other’s minds so that the exact words you use may seem irrelevant. However, if you stop and think about these assumptions, it might occur to you that there is more to question-asking as a strategy than you realize.
Worrying is a part of life. It's natural to worry about the stressful things in our lives. But what happens when that worry becomes invasive and persistent? For people with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), worrying can take over their lives, becoming excessive and exaggerated.
A person with GAD doesn't simply have rational worries based on actual risk—they worry regardless of outside stressors, exaggerate the perceived level of risk, and cannot rationalize away the worry.
If you ever thought that all you needed was a few months to get over something traumatic, trust that you are not alone. Most of us have been there and believed the same thing before. After all, the popular cliché “time heals all wounds” is used by many people for good reason.
But is it completely true? Yes, and no.